

No. Racism is prejudice on the basis of race. Being part of a group that is generally a target doesn’t excuse your own behavior and give a blank card for your own prejudices.
We are ALL grown-ups. Act like it. Asking someone to be aware of their own privilege is not the same as telling someone they’re inherently guilty to the genitals or skin color they were born with, regardless of their own actions. That is NOT “being asked to self-reflect” as you put it. That is simply prejudice and you will be called out on it. The same way I will call-out a cat-calling man, a man-hating woman or a raging racist, because to me you are all the same.
I have to respect the confidence.